COMPLETE & FINISH

"People say there is no difference between COMPLETE & FINISH" ... But there is. When u marry the right one you are COMPLETE ....and when u marry the wrong one you are FINISHED.....And when the right one catches u with the wrong one you are COMPLETELY FINISHED" once said by a friend of mine.

There is nothing called happily married, is either you are MARRIED AND HAPPY, or MARRIED AND SAD, or thinking of either suicide or murder

In courtship everything is regarded as provisional and preliminary, and the smallest sample of virtue or accomplishment is taken to guarantee delightful stores which the broad leisure of marriage will reveal.
Rude awaking when at breakfast table you suddenly realise
I can’t stand that baldie sitting across the table never thought he would lose his hair,
I hate the noise coming from her chewing of the bone that should have been relegated to the Bin liner,
He snore nor she snore
i hate that, heavy gallop when she swallow her FuFu ball,
He or she has become an impediment in my life. or she has become criminally obese
Get over it people it’s our choice either you live with it and be condemned to everlasting unhappiness or bolt out of the door whichever way you are COMPLETELY FINISHED"

Thinking about it we are all set up from the start with this marriage shit, In most cases we find ourselves with self denials thinking everything will be alright when he or she moved in, but to find out it’s a case of MAN THAT HAD 7 CHILDREN BY SEVEN DIFFERENT WOMEN AND THEY ALL DIE AT CHILD BIRTH, COMMON THE GUY IS A TOUCH OF DEATH

A wise man with his own interpretation of the subject saying you made a very, very valid point regarding some couples staring at their marriage cert as if it has expiry date.
As I am typing this, my mind is on a friend who is like that. He always runs to me each time he wants to escape his wife. His attitude is just like you painted it.
Yet, I have lost count of people who simply hope and pray for their partners' demise because the home is too hot.
Now, let's get talking. How did the once upon a time rosy courtship become a sour grape? How did many couples landed in despair after enjoying years of courtship and one of the best honeymoon? How did they get into trouble?
Someone mentioned tolerance. I am tempted to agree but I won’t. This is because it is tolerance that made many sad couples endure years of marital disharmony. It is tolerance that killed their dreams of happy life!
Tolerance, can be classified into two:
1. Endurance...often negative. It involves one or both of the couples enduring the other, with the view that one day the problem may disappear. They are often unhappy about it. But the endure it. And once a while has to exchange blows and verbally assault to regain sanity.
2. Acceptance...often positive. Is when one or both party has agreed to live with other without complaining? He or she may not like it, but the spirit of togetherness and tolerance bind them together. It may be a cheating husband, being tolerated by the faithful wife, an over-sized wife, who spends all day fanning her fatty body and nagging at everyone being tolerated by a patience husband... I can go on and on.
Tolerance works only when there is a binding factor. When there is something that glues the couples for beta for worse. It may be wealth, children, religion, family and it maybe because the victim is too ugly or unlucky to find alternative.
However, it is often understood that our generation is lacking a basic knowledge of marital management. In fact, I suggest that a course be introduced for intending couples. This will save us a lot in term of money and social values.
The average youth marriage philosophy goes thus: Boy meets girl, they fall in love, fall in bed, get married, have kids and live happily there after!
We all know that it is not as simple as that. It is when they have kids that they begin to understand that marriage is not all about love, sex, and kids!

So what is the way out?
Some people put up and shut up and give their life into a miserable future in a marriage. This is not healthy for all who are connected with the marriage be it the couple, children and the external family. The ultimate problem lays in the couple who stick it out for all those years for the sake of the kids, money, time invested in each other, social, religious or family commitments, status or whatever their reason may be to hold that marriage together ignoring their own feelings for the external feelings and commitments. Then comes a time that we get all the freedom and the money we want to live comfortable but your heart is not comfortable because the dreams, goals and senses are lost and there is no vision for tomorrow.

Inspired by Gbemisola Adesida