Tragedies

There are only two tragedies in life: not getting what one wants and the other is getting it. Just like a woman wants sex in the back of the car while you are driving it. Some desire is necessary to keep life in motion, and he whose real wants are supplied must admit those of fancy. Reality means you live until you die. The real truth is nobody wants reality

It is not good to be too free. It is not good to have everything one wants. If I were reincarnated, I'd want to come back a buzzard. Nothing hates him or envies him or wants him or needs him. He is never bothered or in danger, and he can eat anything.

Long hair minimizes the need for barbers; socks can be done without; one leather jacket solves the coat problem for many years; suspenders are superfluous.

When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.

I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better, they suck up to your every trash, made you feel the best thing since sliced bread just for a slice of the cake in the palm of your hand.

There are three types of friends: those like food, without which you can't live; those like medicine, which you need occasionally; and those like an illness, which you never want.

But no man is an island. We are not put on earth for ourselves, but are placed here for each other. If you are there always for others, then in time of need, someone will be there for you. I have heard too many nonsense about not needing anybody in their life, what a load of baloney, you need a cab driver to drive u around, you need builders or you end up on a tree, you need farmers or you will end up in a box even at that you need carpenters or you will become nourishment to animals.

We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all that we need to make us really happy is something to be enthusiastic about, like we need stars in the night sky, sun on day break, we love water but hate rainfall

I heard some women say I don't need a man. But I'm happier with one. I like to have someone I can touch and squeeze and kiss. But I don't fold up and die if I don't have a man around. Experience is what you got by not having it when you need it.

I've learned that everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

Tell it to your heart

When was the last time you sat down and have a heart to heart with yourself? Have you really examined your heart lately? Are you harbouring childhood wounds?

Even though we know there is always room for improvement, we tend to shy away from criticism. Our ego tells us we are being attacked and quite naturally we want to strike back. In order to be whole, healthy being, we need to know all there is to know about ourselves.

There comes a time when we have to pause to listen to what we are telling ourselves- “I’m so stupid” “I’m broke” “I don’t know how” “I can’t take it anymore..” yet in the midst of our dishonest chatter we are making great strides, accomplishing many tasks, overcoming seemingly insurmountable odds. We keep lying to ourselves; we lied because we have been lied to- “you’re no good” “you can’t do it” “you`ll never make it” we can’t think because we have too many lies gyrating in our minds.

You may not know how to raise your self-esteem, but you definitely know how to stop lowering it.

When we think our enemy is gaining on us, we want to run and run. When we believe someone wants what we have, we squeeze the life right out of it. When we believe “they” are out to get us, we find “their traps” at every turn. Yet if we would just stop running, squeezing and suspecting, we would understand who “they” really are.

If you attack a problem you are going to get your butts whipped. Anything you attack will fight back. Chances are if you have a problem it’s bigger than you: It crept on you or you didn’t know what you are doing in the first place. DON’T ATTACK YOUR PROBLEM, FACE THEM. Understand what they are – that is the process. The solution is not always the answer, but the process is.

Having a Bad day

If you are having a bad day, get another one and get it quick, it is a personal problem the world does not have to deal with. If you get up on the wrong side of the bed, it is no one’s fault but your own.

If it is that time of the week, month or year for you, what would the world do? It is never an excuse for being rude, cruel or abusive to anyone, to simply say “I am having a bad day” It is not appropriate to scream, swear, lash out or do things that have no place among civilized people because “you have some shitty thing on your mind”

We cannot abuse or traumatised others because we are facing a challenge. LIFE IS A CHALLENGE! African tradition tells us that it does not matter what difficulties we face. Our worth is measured by how we face those difficulties. If we are to grow and reach our fullest potential, we have no time or give flying monkeys about bad days

If you have an argument at home, chances are you will have one at work, if you feel unsupportive at home, your friend are likely to abandon you, if you are uncooperative, unreliable and disrespectful at home, you carry that same energy everywhere you go so it’s advisable to

“LEAVE YOUR SHIT UNDER YOUR FOOTMAT ON YOUR WAY OUT AND PICK IT UP ON ARRIVAL, AT LEAST WE DON’T HAVE TO BE SPECTATORS TO YOUR SHITTY WAYS.”

colour, culture mandates that one make home the primary concern of the heart. The heart creates love, support, cooperation, nurturing, and peace. Let us put our hearts, minds, bodies and souls back into the homes as the first step toward eliminating the violence in the street