Jealousy and Self-esteem

Just like jealousy is the surest way to get rid of the very person you are afraid of losing. When you say I love you it means “I want the very best for you whether or not am in the picture” We must acknowledge any feelings of jealousy to understand what they are, jealousy is the signpost of the longing in your subconscious mind.

You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy. Instead of thinking about what you are missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

If you are not good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, you will resent the time and energy you give another person that you are not even giving to yourself.

We have such a poor images of ourselves that we have difficulty understanding the goodness other sees in us. When someone pays us compliment, we are quick to point out what is wrong with us, when some encourage us, we remind them of our failures

Having a low opinion of yourself is not "modesty". It's self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not "egotism". It's a necessary precondition to happiness and success

 “ I compliment the a lady about her rather resounding figure and she quipped with about her big bottom line, AM NOT BLIND SISTA, WHO GIVE A FLYING CRAP ABOUT YOUR BEHIND” we play ourselves down to such  a degree that others begin to question our faith.

Self-confidence gives you the freedom to make mistakes and cope with failure without feeling that your world has come to an end or that you are a worthless person, once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.

We can only accept compliment others give if we give them to ourselves first. Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.

Go out in the world and work like money doesn't matter, Sing as if no one is listening, and Love as if you have never been hurt, and Dance as if no one is watching, Laugh at yourself, but don't ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don't leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.

There are times when we find ourselves at odd with someone. It may seem that our only choice is to walk away but for our ego to prove we are right and walking away will make the other person a winner, your ego keep recognising there is another choice, whatever situation faces us we must recognise our choice to peace, we can let go the need to prove ourselves, a friend one said,

Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance

“Don’t argue with a stupid person for they drag you down and bit you with their vast knowledge in stupidity”

Just think of how stupid the average person is, and then realize half of them are even stupider! Trust me there is no rehab for stupidity

Suspicion enhance Paranoia

Suspicion is not less an enemy to virtue than to happiness; he that is already corrupt is naturally suspicious, and he that becomes suspicious will quickly be corrupt.

We let fear of the unknown or rather we often get suspicious everybody’s motive to get near us out of fear that they are going to get us, often out of stupidity we often drive off the angel and let the devil in, because angels are too good to be true, just like a lady often suspicious of a man that comes across being too good for her ideal kind of man.

Often men are too worried being nice to a lady because she will feel he`s after a gratitude Fuck! And most men reads a dead meaning to a lady being nice thinking she gaggling for it and feeling his Mr wonderful.


Not only don't I know who I am, but I'm very suspicious of people who do know who they are. I am sometimes ten or twelve people a day, and sometimes four or five people an hour. You can't be suspicious of a tree, or accuse a bird or a squirrel of subversion or challenge the ideology of a violet

I love friends, I want more friends. I love smiles. That is a fact. How to develop smiles? There are a variety of smiles. Some smiles are sarcastic. Some smiles are artificial-diplomatic smiles. These smiles do not produce satisfaction, but rather fear or suspicion. But a genuine smile gives us hope, freshness. If we want a genuine smile, then first we must produce the basis for a smile to come.

They tend to be suspicious, bristly, paranoid-type people with huge egos they push around like some elephantiasis victim with his distended testicles in a wheelbarrow terrified no doubt that some skulking ingrate of a clone student will sneak into his very brain and steal his genius work.

The more important the title, the more self-important the person, the greater the amount of time spent on the Eastern shuttle, the more suspicious the man and the less vitality in the organization

Along the way somewhere I got interested in the idea of church and culture, and why the church is so suspicious of the arts, and vice versa. I think lessons we learn as we reflect on theological framework for bioethical issues have ramifications in other spheres

Suspicion become an acute paranoia, in fact, they recapitulate the story of Christianity word for word, like the inevitable course of some unsightly disease: criminal ignorance, brutish stupidity, self-righteous bigotry, paranoid fear of outsiders. For the cultist, psychiatrists, the media, Government agencies have become Satan incarnate. Like the fundamental Christians, they have to be right.

We get paranoid about people staring at us. Even now we don't deal with people looking at us. I can't do it sometimes. I can't go out. I don't know how to react when people stare.

As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery… we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness, however pure love and suspicion cannot dwell together: at the door where the latter enters, the former makes its exit.

Tragedies

There are only two tragedies in life: not getting what one wants and the other is getting it. Just like a woman wants sex in the back of the car while you are driving it. Some desire is necessary to keep life in motion, and he whose real wants are supplied must admit those of fancy. Reality means you live until you die. The real truth is nobody wants reality

It is not good to be too free. It is not good to have everything one wants. If I were reincarnated, I'd want to come back a buzzard. Nothing hates him or envies him or wants him or needs him. He is never bothered or in danger, and he can eat anything.

Long hair minimizes the need for barbers; socks can be done without; one leather jacket solves the coat problem for many years; suspenders are superfluous.

When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.

I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better, they suck up to your every trash, made you feel the best thing since sliced bread just for a slice of the cake in the palm of your hand.

There are three types of friends: those like food, without which you can't live; those like medicine, which you need occasionally; and those like an illness, which you never want.

But no man is an island. We are not put on earth for ourselves, but are placed here for each other. If you are there always for others, then in time of need, someone will be there for you. I have heard too many nonsense about not needing anybody in their life, what a load of baloney, you need a cab driver to drive u around, you need builders or you end up on a tree, you need farmers or you will end up in a box even at that you need carpenters or you will become nourishment to animals.

We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all that we need to make us really happy is something to be enthusiastic about, like we need stars in the night sky, sun on day break, we love water but hate rainfall

I heard some women say I don't need a man. But I'm happier with one. I like to have someone I can touch and squeeze and kiss. But I don't fold up and die if I don't have a man around. Experience is what you got by not having it when you need it.

I've learned that everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

Tell it to your heart

When was the last time you sat down and have a heart to heart with yourself? Have you really examined your heart lately? Are you harbouring childhood wounds?

Even though we know there is always room for improvement, we tend to shy away from criticism. Our ego tells us we are being attacked and quite naturally we want to strike back. In order to be whole, healthy being, we need to know all there is to know about ourselves.

There comes a time when we have to pause to listen to what we are telling ourselves- “I’m so stupid” “I’m broke” “I don’t know how” “I can’t take it anymore..” yet in the midst of our dishonest chatter we are making great strides, accomplishing many tasks, overcoming seemingly insurmountable odds. We keep lying to ourselves; we lied because we have been lied to- “you’re no good” “you can’t do it” “you`ll never make it” we can’t think because we have too many lies gyrating in our minds.

You may not know how to raise your self-esteem, but you definitely know how to stop lowering it.

When we think our enemy is gaining on us, we want to run and run. When we believe someone wants what we have, we squeeze the life right out of it. When we believe “they” are out to get us, we find “their traps” at every turn. Yet if we would just stop running, squeezing and suspecting, we would understand who “they” really are.

If you attack a problem you are going to get your butts whipped. Anything you attack will fight back. Chances are if you have a problem it’s bigger than you: It crept on you or you didn’t know what you are doing in the first place. DON’T ATTACK YOUR PROBLEM, FACE THEM. Understand what they are – that is the process. The solution is not always the answer, but the process is.

Having a Bad day

If you are having a bad day, get another one and get it quick, it is a personal problem the world does not have to deal with. If you get up on the wrong side of the bed, it is no one’s fault but your own.

If it is that time of the week, month or year for you, what would the world do? It is never an excuse for being rude, cruel or abusive to anyone, to simply say “I am having a bad day” It is not appropriate to scream, swear, lash out or do things that have no place among civilized people because “you have some shitty thing on your mind”

We cannot abuse or traumatised others because we are facing a challenge. LIFE IS A CHALLENGE! African tradition tells us that it does not matter what difficulties we face. Our worth is measured by how we face those difficulties. If we are to grow and reach our fullest potential, we have no time or give flying monkeys about bad days

If you have an argument at home, chances are you will have one at work, if you feel unsupportive at home, your friend are likely to abandon you, if you are uncooperative, unreliable and disrespectful at home, you carry that same energy everywhere you go so it’s advisable to

“LEAVE YOUR SHIT UNDER YOUR FOOTMAT ON YOUR WAY OUT AND PICK IT UP ON ARRIVAL, AT LEAST WE DON’T HAVE TO BE SPECTATORS TO YOUR SHITTY WAYS.”

colour, culture mandates that one make home the primary concern of the heart. The heart creates love, support, cooperation, nurturing, and peace. Let us put our hearts, minds, bodies and souls back into the homes as the first step toward eliminating the violence in the street

Bad Medicine

Most of us regard good luck as our right, and bad luck as a betrayal of that right.

Some people are so fond of bad luck they run half way to meet it.
The only good luck many great men ever had was being born with the ability and determination to overcome bad luck.

Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.

Most people who mourn the passing of the nation's leaders wouldn't know a leader if they saw one. If they had the bad luck to come across a leader, they would find out that he might demand something from them, and this impertinence would put an abrupt and indignant end to their wish for his return.”

The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you

We all are afraid of ourselves, of our own reality; our feelings most of all. We talk about how great love is.

“Bull”. Love hurts.

Feelings are disturbing. We are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can we deal with love if we are afraid to feel it?

Pain is meant to wake us up.

We all try to hide our pain. But wrong we are. Pain is something to carry, like a handbag. We feel our strength in the experience of pain. It's all in how we carry it. That's what matters. Pain is a feeling. Our feelings are a part of us.

“Our own reality” If we feel ashamed of them, and hide them, we are letting society destroy our reality. We should stand up for our right to feel our pain.”

If my world were to cave in tomorrow, I would look back on all the pleasures, excitements and happiness I have been lucky enough to have had. Not the sadness, not my miscarriages or becoming an orphan at early age, but the joy of everything else. That will be enough for me

Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.

I don't understand people who hide from their past. I've never tried to block out the memories my past, even though some are painful. Everything you live through helps to make you the person you are now.

People fear death even more than pain. It's strange that they fear death. Life hurts a lot more than death. At the point of death, the pain is over.

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.

Sermon Of Doom

Sermons remain one of the last forms of public discourse where it is culturally forbidden to talk back. If the truth were known, many sermons are prepared and preached with more regard for the sermon than the souls of the hearers, few sinners are saved after the first twenty minutes of a sermon.

The object of preaching is to constantly remind mankind of what they keep forgetting; not to supply the intellect, but to fortify the feebleness of human resolutions. The good rain, like a bad preacher, does not know when to leave off.

It is hardly to be believed how spiritual reflections when mixed with a little physics can hold people's attention and give them a livelier idea of God than do the often ill-applied examples of his wrath.

That we should practice what we preach is generally admitted; but anyone who preaches what he and his hearers practice must incur the gravest moral disapprobation.
I'd rather see a sermon than hear one any day; I'd rather one should walk with me than merely tell the way: The eye's a better pupil and more willing than the ear, fine counsel is confusing, but example's always clear. In the Old Testament all we get is DON'T

And God spoke all these words, saying: 'I am the LORD your God…
1: 'You shall have no other gods before Me.'
2: 'You shall not make for yourself a carved image—any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.'
3: 'You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.'
4: 'Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.'
5: 'Honour your father and your mother.'
6: 'You shall not murder.'
7: 'You shall not commit adultery.'

8: 'You shall not steal.'
9: 'You shall not bear false witness against your neighbour.'
10: 'You shall not covet your neighbour’s house; you shall not covet your neighbour’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbour’s

The New Testament gave us the Beatitudes:

Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are they who mourn,
for they shall be comforted.

Blessed are the meek,
for they shall inherit the earth.

Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they shall be satisfied.

Blessed are the merciful,
for they shall obtain mercy.

Blessed are the pure of heart,
for they shall see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they shall be called children of God.

Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Go into the street, and give one man a lecture on morality, and another a Pound coin, and see which will respect you most.

This type of Doomsday preaching does not bring people closer to God, maybe we should let people know the consequences of doing wrong and same breath what they can gain doing right. More so letting people remember that God is a God of love and loves all creation.

Even with your children constant treat does not help! The day your child tells retribution for going your do`s and don’ts, is the day your treat becomes an embarrassment to you!!, The child is saying all you are good at doing is inflicting punishment when you can’t get your way, instead of sitting the child down and explain why this thing is not good for wellbeing, the advantage and disadvantage of the action

In the old covenants the people were sprinkled with blood of calves without, in their bodies, to bind them to keep the law; else we were bound to just damnation, for the breaking of it. But these days that alone will be perceived as an ungodly act!

God preordained, for his own glory and the display of His attributes of mercy and justice, a part of the human race, without any merit of their own, to eternal salvation, and another part, in just punishment of their sin, to eternal damnation

we can let people or advice people to live a Godly way even the present day churches realise the new generation like parties, music, disco etc. as such they have integrate this flavour of this type of music and lot of Spiritual music that has the flavour of what the new generation likes and can dance to!! And it’s working like a magic. Its norm to be seen playing gospel music and most of this music are in hip-hop, Rap more-so RNB an d they are so Godly and beautiful to the ears.

Since the day i was born, i am yet to meet one EVIL human being because God does not create evil for he created us all. But all i have seen are Good people with bad tendencies. Gun does not kill us human that kill with a Gun.

Even the bible said it’s not for a man soul to perish but to repent!!!

We should pray more for people to change and stop this constant damnation by judges of doom