Perfume of Heart

"Love is friendship set on fire."

Never allow your partner or yourself to denigrate the other. You must have personal respect and consideration for yourself. Everyone deserves respect and love.
But you can't expect to get it unless you give it.
If you allow your partner to disparage you, expect to hear other damaging words.
Whatever you are willing to accept is exactly what you're going to get.
Be compassionate, understanding, forgiving and merciful.
Patience, kindness, consideration and thoughtfulness can never be in short demand.
Don’t take anything for granted, the most precious thing in life are the smallest thing we oversee on daily basis and can be taken at any moment

HARRY HIPPIE

Everybody claims that they want the best things

Out of life, but not everyone, 

Want to got through the toils and strife`s.

 

Like this particular fella, walks around

all day long singin' this song

sha na lah dah dah lah dah

 

Harry Hippie, lies asleep in the shade,

life don't bug him cause he

thinks he's got it made.

He never worry about nothinG' in particular

Oooh he might even sell free press on Sunset.

 

I'd like to help a man when he's down

but I can't help him much

when he's sleeping' on the ground.

 

He's like a bottle in water

Harry just floats through life

Walks around all day long singin' this song

Whoa, whoa, whoa, ohhh yeah

 

Mary Hippie, she's Harry's lady

Panhandles money just to feed Harry's baby.

She can lie down a story so incredible

Man, you want TO help her take the food

home and put it on the table.

 

I'd like to help a man when he's down,

but I can't help ya Harry

if you want TO sleep on the ground.

Sorry Harry, you're too much weight

to carry around.

 

But he still walks around all day singinG' this song

Sha dah dah dah sha

Street child, street child, tell me where

will you be goinG'

when old man winter gets his horn

and starts blowinG'

Will you hang around LA

or hitch a ride on a freeway

Meet an old familiar face in a new place.

 

I'd like to help a man when he's down

But how can I help him

if he's somewhere out OF town

Sorry Harry, think I'm gonna put you down.

Sha dah dah

(J. Ford)

Bobby Womack

LOVE (1 Corinthians)

I may be able to speak the languages of men and even of angels, but if I have no love, my speech is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell.
I may have the gift of inspired preaching,
I may have the gift of knowledge and understand all secrets;
I may have all the faith needed to move mountains
but if I have no love, this does me no good.

Love is patient and kind it is not jealous or conceited or proud.
Love is not ill mannered or selfish or irritable.
Love does not keep a record of wrongs.
Love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth.
Love never gives up and its faith, hope, and patience never fail.
Love is eternal.

There are inspired messages, but they are temporary there are gifts of speaking in strange tongues but they will ceases there is knowledge but it will pass.
For our gifts of knowledge and of inspired messages are only partial but when what is perfect comes, then what is partial will disappear.
When I was a child, my speech, feelings and thinking were all those of a child now that I am a man, I have no more use for childish ways.
What we see now is like a dim image in a mirror then we shall see face to face.
What I know now is only partial then it will be complete as complete as God`s knowledge of me.
Meanwhile these three remain:
Faith, Hope and Love.
The greatest of these is love

Human TeaBags

(African Woman Sets Herself on Fire) MY THOUGHT

Thanks for sharing this image, its Sad but We blame foreigners, church, even everyday people!!!! But ourselves.

WHAT ABOUT OUR SO CALLED AFRICAN GOVERNMENT or Leaders? Do we have to continue to enslave ourselves while some selfish few live in luxury?
Come on You, You, and ME too, knows somebody in power messing up other people`s life but we turn a blind eye because of what we might gain from them aka contract, sponsorship, political appointments.
I have seen many men and women folk too of principle here in UK on arrival in Nigeria lost their moral and sanity for a fistful of Naira.

I can remember a once good friend that study political science nursing a political ambition, that if and when ever he decided to contest for any post in Nigeria, I will personally take up an advert in the national newspaper from my own very purse telling people not to VOTE the bastard because he is my friend i know him a lot and I can’t trust him to share a burger with my little boy without him ripping the poor lad up.

If all is well in your house everybody out there will respect you, how can people in a better society respect us when all they hear about us is corruption, inhuman treatment among us even in work place.

On one of my trip to Lagos, I visited my lawyer that works at the office of commissioner of police in Ikeja and just along the corridor upstairs there was this stench like human decay, and i thought peewee what was that!!. On my right hand I heard noises coming through the whole in the wall and what I saw will hunt me for the rest of my live, just a size of a room 12"x14" was at least 180 men with no clothes on and no roof in that court yard in the blazing sun of Lagos 32 degrees, and i will like to believe that this has been the case for years, how do you justify that. It’s sickening and i am thankful to God that i made my son sat with the driver in the café downstairs or how do i rationalize that to him? The thought of that site still made me physically shaken. Black on Blacks, modern day en-slavery?

Killing each other all in the name of economic hardship? How do we justify that?
Mr Kunle must be seen intimidating Mr & Mrs Omoyo to proof his arrived aka big man!
One of my Manager (a Caucasians) that grew up in a black neighbourhood once said, if you go to a sport shop and everybody buy a pair of white Nike shoes for £50 a pair, Some of us black people will come in and buy a pair of GOLD coloured GOLA trainers for £150, with matching Gold tooth, just to proof a point, we are rich but not wealthy!!

Our leader live in Marble house with a tiled drive way but outside their gate is squalor, muddy water, rubbish dump and some even build their houses in the drainage part just to live in highly sorted areas.

But stupidly we love to kill the messenger and not the master that sent him, I am a proud Ijebu Man before being a Yoruba and a Nigerian, you must be wandering why? Because that is where my heart is, and Nigeria in Africa home world is all I’ve got

I have heard some fools that said THEY HATE THE GOING BACK HOME IDEA TO CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING TO THE DEVELOPMENT, but in another tone will PREFER IN THEIR DEATH TO BE SHIPPED AND BURIED BACK HOME. Laughable? Home world is only good enough for your carcass.

Brother please Let take care of our back yard before we start fighting a foreign war, the first thing the white folk will always say is go back to JUNGLE Africa, we all know it’s not the monkey hopping jungle they are talking about because, Africa Home world is as developed as most places in western Europe, But economic wise it is a jungle.
If this touches some raw nerve? That is what it was intended

African Woman Sets Herself on Fire To Protest Racism

 
Sad stuff...



The horrifying sight which traumatized shoppers and office workers in the centre of Luxembourg City last week has now been labeled as a protest against racism. The Belgian woman of Congolese origin who set herself alight in the middle of Place d'Armes told witnesses that she was! doing it to protest against racism, moments before she carried out th e desperate act which has left her in hospital fighting for her life.

Maggy Delvaux-Mufu, a mother of three in her forties, alerted several national newspapers late on Tuesday morning last week that she would be burning herself alive on place des Martyrs at 12.45 am, before setting out accompanied by her husband to walk through the centre of town to her macabre rendezvous. The police were alerted and officers were deployed to the Rousegärtchen.

But the woman changed her plan when she came across a group of journalists gathered to cover an event organized by the 'Movement écologique' on Place d'Armes, opposite the Cercle municipal. She soaked herself in petrol before confronting the members of the press, announcing that she was about to sacrifice her life to protest against racism. Moments later, she struck a match, turning herself into a human torch in front of hundreds of people.
Delvaux-Mufu' s husband and passers-by jumped on the burning body, attempting to stifle the flames with coats and jackets. The sce! ne made several people feel unwell and many witnesses who filled the square at lunchtime were traumatized by the woman's shrieking screams of unimaginable pain. The flames were already extinguished when police, rescue services and the fire brigade arrived at the scene. One person is reported to have vomited after seeing the woman being transported into an ambulance. The events in Place d'Armes have also started a controversy regarding the authorities' lack of psychological support for witnesses.

Delvaux-Mufu was taken to the Bon Secours hospital in Metz, where she is being treated in a specialized ward for burns and is fighting for her life. Grand Duchess Maria Teresa visited the woman and her family at the hospital last week.

RTL television was the first to run a news flash about the incident on its website on Tuesday afternoon last week. 352 reported the bulletin in its news in brief section, shortly before going to print. Events preceding the incident only came to light later on in the week.


The 42-year-old Belgian citizen and her husband had been facing financial difficulties. They had recently indebted themselves by buying a Citroën garage in Oberwampach, before realizing they were missing the documents that would allow them to set up a business. Delvaux-Mufu wrote a letter to Le Jeudi recounting her story of bureaucratic difficulties and economic despair. "I'm against all forms of violence, but day after day, my family and I have to endure moral violence, discrimination, insults and much more from Mr Juncker's administration" , she said in the letter published last week.

Money problems had driven the woman to desperately plead her case at the Prime minister's office early on the same day of the incident. Her threat to burn herself alive on Place des Martyrs after being turned away by the authorities caused government officials to contact the police. A city-wide search was organized, but nobody could foresee the woman would change her plans."

I Wish He Didn't Trust Me So Much "

I'm the best friend he's got
I'd give him the shirt off my back
He knows he can trust me with his life
But he? Leaves me alone, leaves me alone with his with his wife
I wish he didn't trust me so much
I think he really trusts me too much..

How can he be so blind
We've both got the same good taste
He should know when he's gone on business trips
I can’t help watchin' his woman
Cause I'm losin' my grip
I wish he didn't trust me so much
I think he really trusts me too much..

Though I swear, all not my will
But there's a way, There's a way she makes me feel
But I'm scared, so scared of what I do
If she starts feeling the same way too..
You shouldn't trust me so much
We got a problem
I thing you really trust me too much

It's not that she leads me on
I'm getting there all by myself
But just being with her all, all alone
I can't help but hopin' that he never comes home
I wish he didn't trust me so much
I think you really trust me too much
I wish he didn't trust me so much

We got a problem
I think you really trust me too much
Though I swear all not my will (it's not my will)
But There's a way, There's a way she makes me feel
Lord I'm so scared, scared of what I do
If she starts feeling the same way too..
I wish he didn't trust me so much ooooo
I think he really trusts me too much..

I got a problem
You can see, (I wish he didn't trust me so much )
I'm caught up. ....caught up in the middle
(I think he really trusts me too much)
And I'm tired tired of playing fiddle ooooo


Bobby Womack Lyrics

IMPORTANCE OF A WIFE

CASE # 1

Interviewer to Millionaire:To whom do you owe your success as a millionaire?
Millionaire : I owe everything to my wife.
Interviewer: Wow, she must be some woman.
What were you before you married her?
Millionaire: A billionaire.

CASE # 2

Wife: Why do you always carry my photo in your wallet?
Husband: When there is a problem, no matter how big,
I look at your photo and the problem disappears.
Wife: You see how miraculous and powerful I am for you?
Husband : Yes, I see your picture and say to myself,
"What other problem can be greater than this one?"

CASE # 3

Q - What is the difference between a mother and a wife?
A - One woman brings you into this world crying....

......the other ensures you continue to do so.

CASE # 4

Wife : Do you want dinner?
Husband : Sure, what are my choices?
Wife : Yes and No.

CASE # 5

Wife: Honey..... What are you looking for?
Husband : Nothing.
Wife: Nothing...?? You have been reading our marriage
certificate for an hour !!

Husband: I was just looking for the expiry date.

Wife: I wish I was a newspaper so i would be in your hands all day

Husband: I too wish you are a Newspaper so i can have one everyday!

 

Motherfucking pastor

I don’t understand what is going on in the Church now.....I go to church in the zanger, so the pastor was preaching and so on...When it was time for thank-giving .......a white man stud up and said..... Who is the motherfucking pastor in this motherfucking church... everyone was surprise in that kind of words the pastor was about to challenge the white man.... then the white man said I thought there is any motherfucking pastor in this motherfucking church .....I want to drop some motherfucking thousands of Dollars to this motherfucking church...... then everybody including the pastor was shouting...... I am the real motherfucking pastor in the great motherfucking church

HOPE

Hope is the international language behind all courses of positive action. In keeping hope alive, we move towards the greater humanity within ourselves, and in so doing, help to make a difference in the lives of others. Apathy is damned!
Time is of essence. Love often times seems rare for the ones that take time to care. You get in where you fit in, but are this where you really want to be? Be true to self and keep your esteem on
high, it has been known to be the best alibi.

Never

Never argue with an idiot, because they will simply drag you down to their level and beat you with their idiotic experience

My Sisters

I Love my Sisters.
It was nice to growing up with you girls.
Someone to Lean on.
Someone to count on.
Someone to Tell on
Someone to be mad at.
Nature couldn't have given me better bodyguards

Can't Get No Satisfaction .........

Why do we tend to place our dissatisfaction in people solely upon their shoulders? In a relationship, is it truly our partner's responsibility to meet our needs?

Choosing to form a romantic bond with someone does not automatically dictate that one person must yield to the needs of another nor does it mean that someone must "change" in order to be an ideal mate.

In many cases when we are dissatisfied in our relationship/partner we should own our discontent as our own hang ups rather than that person not being good enough for us.

Why would we desire a genetic clone that walk, talks, and thinks as we do. When that is the case we do not want a person to love. We want a puppet to control.

We have to give people the freedom to be themselves and love them just the same.

A wise man once told me that just because someone does not love you the way you want to be loved does not mean that they do not love you the best way they know how.

Believe in your inner being.

Believe in yourself!!
You are God`s best.
Never drive yourself down with negative thoughts.
Does it matter what others neither call nor claim your person might be?
What ever you are is your definition of whom you are.
God has pre-defined your purpose in life.
This is what you will always be!!
Healthy, victorious, intelligent and influential.
If that is what he had for you then?
Be gratified and Thank lord for his mercies.
And be proud to say I believe in what and how you made me.

Inspiration from: Blessing Izedomwen

Reasons

I believe that everything happens for a reason. 
People change so that you can learn to let go.
Things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they are right.
You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself.
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can Fall in

Move On

YOU CAN SPEND MINUTES, HOURS, DAYS, WEEKS OR EVEN MONTHS OVER-ANALYZING A SITUATION;
TRYING TO PUT THE PIECES TOGETHER, JUSTIFYING WHAT COULD HAVE HAPPEN..
.....OR YOU CAN JUST LEAVE THE PIECES ON THE FLOOR AND
                                     MOVE THE FUCK ON !!!!!!

Three Angels

Black Jesus

NATURAL HIGHS

1. Being in love.

2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.

3. A hot shower.

4. No queues at the supermarket.

5. Taking a drive on a pretty road.

6. Hearing your favourite song on the radio.

7. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.

8. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.

9. Chocolate milkshake ... (or vanilla ... or strawberry!)

10. A bubble bath.

11. Giggling.

12. A good conversation.

13. Finding a N500 note in your coat when you're broke.

14. Running through sprinklers.

15. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.

16. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.

17. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.

18. Waking up and realising you still have a few hours left to sleep.

19. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.

20. Having someone play with your hair.

21. Sweet dreams.

22. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.

23. Holding hands with someone you care about.

24. Running into an old friend and realising that some things (good or
bad) never change.

25. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a
much-desired present from you.

26. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another
beautiful day.

27. Knowing that somebody misses you.

28. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.

29. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think

Definition of a Man

While attempting to achieve all that makes up the idealistic man, I still stand alone staring up at the peak of the mountain, sometimes unable to make sense of it all.

Concerned about the question of my existence, like a child just beginning to live, there are things about Love, Life, and especially Women that I will never fully understand!

Once a wise person told me that, a man can't actually know himself until he knows what he truly wants from a woman. He has to prove his worth in more than the obvious ways known to the world.

It's more than his ability to make a buck; drive the biggest truck, and definitely, not how well he can fu*k!

Reality, which is fleeting at best, has a way to put the strongest of men to the ultimate test. Constantly pushing our ability to resist falling into line behind the rest of the losers in life, abusers of hearts, terrorists of the minds, and destroyers of the soul.

I must stand up and be counted more different than what is expected from the classless. Defining myself by what my soul knows to be right, embracing the diversity present in each of us!

To actually count as a man, one must always be able to separate himself from the beliefs and shallowness of the masses that make up humanity! So, let's drink a toast to the fool, who believes that he's too cool to belong to the community that surrounds him.

We, all must refuse to limit our hearts and minds to just attempting to find that person who fits the general definition of fine!

I am the sole survivor of countless wars for control of my feelings! Now is the time to throw off the chains that have blinded me to this plane of existence. Believing in myself, I must take flight regardless of the chances that may lead to a loss or failure.

Yet, I will never give up, always striving to be more than the average man, because after it's all said and done, it's my destiny to define!

Sayings

OLD ADAGE: If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and walks like a duck. Chances are it's probably a duck.

MORAL: No matter how you spell, or abbreviate it, the core definition remains the same.

WAKE UP! These terms are negatively viewed by all societies, and most would not address nor associate themselves with such nonsense. The OTHER pleaded their case for slavery by telling the world this was all you would ever be. If you refer to yourself as any of the above, they no longer have to audibly call you a NI99A.

A true "BOSS" never refers to himself as such. His presence, personality, and actions commands that reverence of his subordinates.

  A THUG usually doesn't have the self discipline to attain a JOB, which may provide the means of supporting a family. Therefore a THUG, more often than naught get's a rap sheet. (I ain't talking about no record deal.)

  For those of you exposing your best physical attributes on your webcams and posting the pictures. Do you realize they are there for the whole world to see? Although, I am but a MAN, if you don't respect yourself enough to clothe that which is naked, I will gladly look.

Girls and Women

Girls want to control the man in their life. Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them. Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

 Girls are afraid to be alone. Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys. Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home. Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans. Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man. Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man. 

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends). Grown women realize that a little bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends. 

Girls think a guy crying is weak. Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue. Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.

Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it. Grown women know that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'. Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude. Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends

Life

A Life Poem Life can seem ungrateful and not always kind.

Life can pull at your heartstrings and play with your mind...

Life can be blissful and happy and free...

Life can put beauty in the things that you see...

Life can place challenges right at your feet...

Life can make good of the hardships we meet...

Life can overwhelm you and make your head spin...

Life can reward those determined to win...

Life can be hurtful and not always fair...

Life can surround you with people who care...

Life clearly does offer its Up and its Downs...

Life's days can bring you both smiles and frowns...

Life teaches us to take the good with the bad...

Life is a mixture of happy and sad...

                       So...

Take the Life that you have and give it your best...

Think positive; be happy let God do the rest...

Take the challenges that life has laid at your feet...

Take pride and be thankful for each one you meet...

To yourself give forgiveness if you stumble and fall...

Take each day that is dealt you and give it your all...

Take the love that you're given and return it with care... Have faith that when needed it will always be there...

Take time to find the beauty in the things that you see...

Take life's simple pleasures let them set your heart free... The idea here is simply to even the score... As you are met and faced with Life's Tug of War

REASON, SEASON OR LIFETIME

People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. the prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.

Satisfaction

Some good old saying that Satisfaction is an end of ambition.
Been pondering this saying in my head for a very long time, trying to figure out, that does that means one cant be truly satisfied in life?
Out of no where i started dissecting this saying in layers,

1 Well accepting certain scenario can be interpreted as you are satisfied with what ever u are, and as such there is no point in trying anymore?

2 Or can you accept and still want more? hmmm people might say you are greedy*********

but does that really bothers the said individual?

3 Will you just get caught up in a rapture and accept the inevitable?

It all boil down to WANTS isn't it?

I hope you find fulfillment in this new insight about
yourself.
May it bring you peace and understanding, tranquility
and all that other profound stuff.

As We Grow

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time.

You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.

You'll fight with your best friend.

You'll blame a new love for things an old one did.

You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!

Serve to Serve

It takes wisdom and intelligent to serve and serving does not made us servant,
We serve to fulfill our monetary obligations. 

It is not how much we fall but how higher we rise.
Therefore, it does not matter how many times man falls but how many time he rises and how higher we rise

Good Men

GOOD  MEN!

We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we cannot see because we do not know what a good black man really looks like. He usually is not flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. Nevertheless, as you mature, you realize it is better to find someone who has your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man does not agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He does not just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He does not declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he will not have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he does not have to degrade you to prove he is right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you do not live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, 'Aha! I knew you were a dog!'

A good man is secure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man does not necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Do not judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You will miss your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It is just not true.

A good man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. That is right!

A good man has a love and a heart for his Higher Power. As his relationship and love with that, Higher Power grows so will his relationship and love with and for you shall grow. (AMEN!!!)