Good Men

GOOD  MEN!

We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we cannot see because we do not know what a good black man really looks like. He usually is not flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. Nevertheless, as you mature, you realize it is better to find someone who has your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man does not agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He does not just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He does not declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he will not have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he does not have to degrade you to prove he is right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you do not live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, 'Aha! I knew you were a dog!'

A good man is secure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man does not necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Do not judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You will miss your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It is just not true.

A good man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. That is right!

A good man has a love and a heart for his Higher Power. As his relationship and love with that, Higher Power grows so will his relationship and love with and for you shall grow. (AMEN!!!)